5 Surprising Signs You Need Counselling After a Breakup

Breakups can be a tough pill to swallow and it’s normal to feel all kinds of emotions like sadness, anger, or confusion when a relationship ends. However, if these emotions are sticking around and interfering with your daily life, then it might be a good time to seek some professional help. Let’s dive into some signs that indicate it’s time to seek counselling after a breakup.

You can’t stop thinking about your ex.

It’s okay to think about your ex-partner from time to time, especially in the early stages of a breakup. However, if intrusive thoughts of your ex are consuming your every waking moment, it can make it hard to move on and get closure. Obsessive behaviours, like constantly checking your ex’s social media profiles or re-reading old messages (psst here’s a list of 10 things to do instead of contacting your ex!), can be a sign that you’re struggling to let go.

A breakup counsellor can help you process your emotions, identify unhealthy thought patterns, and develop coping strategies to help you move on in a healthy way. Hiring a licensed professional is critical to your healing instead of following the advice of “coaches” or “relationship gurus” on the Internet.

You’re experiencing physical symptoms.

Breakups can be physically and emotionally exhausting. If you’re experiencing physical symptoms like headaches, stomachaches, or insomnia, it might be a sign that you’re struggling to cope with the emotional aftermath of the breakup. Your body and mind are connected, and when one is hurting, it can affect the other. That’s why it’s so important to take care of both!

A breakup counsellor can help you learn coping skills to manage your stress, develop self-care routines that promote physical and emotional wellness, and potentially identify any underlying medical conditions that may be contributing to your symptoms. Remember, your body is your temple! Treat it with kindness and love.

You’ve lost interest in activities you used to enjoy.

It can be really tough when you feel like you’ve lost the spark that used to make you happy. If you’re feeling unmotivated or just not into the things you used to enjoy, it could be a sign that you’re struggling with depression or anxiety. And guess what? That’s totally okay! It’s a natural response to a difficult situation. But if these feelings are starting to take over your life and consistently prevent you from engaging in activities that once brought you joy, it might be time to seek professional help.

A breakup counsellor can help you identify the underlying causes of your symptoms, develop a treatment plan that works for you, and find new ways to enjoy life again. And trust me, there’s a lot of fun things out there to do! Whether it’s trying a new hobby or reconnecting with an old passion, a breakup counsellor can help you find your spark again.

You’re using drugs or alcohol to cope.

Using drugs or alcohol to cope with a breakup can be a slippery slope, and it’s crucial to seek help before things get worse. While it might provide temporary relief, binge drinking can ultimately lead to addiction, poor decision-making, and worsening mental health symptoms. That’s why it’s so important to have healthy coping mechanisms in place!

A breakup counsellor can help you develop strategies to manage your emotions without turning to substances, connect you with resources to help you overcome addiction, and provide a supportive environment to help you heal. And remember, you are so much stronger than you think. You can get through this, and there is hope for a brighter future.

You’re distracted from school or work.

If you find that you’re having trouble focusing on your school or work, it could be a sign that you’re struggling to cope with the emotional fallout of the breakup.You might find that you’re easily distracted or forgetful, or that you’re having trouble completing tasks that used to be easy for you. You might also find that you’re spending more time than usual procrastinating or avoiding your responsibilities altogether. If you’re experiencing any of these symptoms, it’s important to take them seriously. Ignoring them could lead to bigger problems down the road, like poor performance at school or work, or even losing your job.

Let me share with you a story

I had a co-worker many years ago tell me that they failed a semester at university because of a bad breakup. I remember her describing how agonizing it was for her to see her ex in class or on campus. How it was impossible to care about her assignments or studying for exams. She ended up flunking all of her classes and needing top repeat them in order to continue with her degree. She opened up to me about how much she regretted not seeing a counsellor sooner so she could learn better coping skills to process her breakup better. Not to mention saving her time and money on repeating an entire semester!

If you’re experiencing any of these signs, then don’t hesitate to reach out for some support. 

That’s where I come in. As a breakup counsellor, I’m here to help you heal and grow after a breakup. Together, we’ll explore your feelings and develop coping strategies to help you move on in a healthy way. And the best part? You’ll be able to work on yourself and become a better version of yourself in the process. You don’t have to go through it alone.

So why not book a counselling appointment with me today, and let’s start your journey towards a happier, healthier future!

Trust me, you deserve it.