23 Ways to Get Over Your Ex in 2023, According to a Breakup Counsellor
Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or it’s been a hot minute since the split, I’m here to sprinkle some fabulousness and guide you through the healing process. As a breakup counsellor, I’ve got your back and will show you how to navigate this journey with grace and intention by sharing helpful ways to get over your ex. Because let’s face it, nobody hands us a manual on how to get through a breakup!
Let’s buckle up and get ready for some tried and true methods that will not only help you get over your ex, but also set the stage for you to build a stronger relationship with yourself! Are you ready to transform that heartache into a catalyst for growth and self-love? I thought so.
Here are 23 sassy and empowering ways to get over your ex in 2023. So grab a cup of self-love and let’s dive right in!
Slay the Self-Care Routine
Darlings, it’s time to put yourself first and pamper that fabulous soul of yours! Dive into a bubble bath extravaganza, indulge in your favorite face mask, and get cozy with that delicious book you’ve been eyeing. Treat yourself like the queen/king/non-binary monarch you are! Want some inspiration? Watch this video for breakup self-care tips!
Surround Yourself with Shimmering Stars
Your squad should be as fabulous as you are! Gather your most glamorous friends for movie nights, karaoke battles, and dance-offs that will make you forget all about your ex. Remember, fabulousness attracts fabulousness!
Complete a 30 Day Challenge
Breakups can often leave us feeling defeated, but utilizing this time to embark on a challenge will serve as a powerful reminder of your strength and resilience. Consider engaging in a 30-day challenge that involves abstaining from alcohol, refraining from texting your ex while under its influence, or committing to daily yoga practice. Give my specially crafted How to Heal Your Heart in 30 Days a try. This guided journal provides you with a purposeful endeavor that goes beyond relaxation and self-care, actively aiding you in moving forward from your past relationship.
Go on a Digital Detox
If you’ve caught yourself endlessly scrolling through your ex’s Instagram, or even digging up photos of your ex’s high school graduation back in 2011, it’s time to take a breather from social media. When I went through my own breakup a while back, I bid farewell to Facebook and Instagram, and let me tell you, it was like setting my soul free. Not only did my mind become clearer than ever, but I also realized just how much I had been consumed by the digital realm. So, darling, hit that pause button on social media and give yourself the liberation you deserve.
Reclaim Your Style
It’s time for a wardrobe revolution! Experiment with new styles, mix and match, and let your inner fashionista shine through. Get rid of any old clothes that is cluttering your closet space and create space for something new. Then go on a mini shopping spree! You’re shopping for a new you, a confident you. Remember, when you look good, you feel good!
Embark on a Solo Adventure
Pack your bags because it’s time to explore uncharted territory! Whether it’s a glamorous getaway or a weekend road trip, venture into the unknown and embrace the freedom of your own company. Learn more about how to be alone and why it’s important to your growth!
Embrace the Power of Counselling and Healing
Sometimes, we all need a little extra support on our journey of healing. Consider reaching out to a therapist or counsellor who specializes in relationships and heartbreak. They can provide the tools and guidance to navigate your emotions and help you shine brighter than ever before.
Channel Your Inner Artist
Grab a canvas and some paint or felt markers and paper and let your imagination run wild! Channel your emotions into beautiful artworks that express your journey of healing. Art therapy can help you process your emotions in a artistic way that’s different from journaling and talking to your friends. So get creative and give it a try! Remember, art has the power to heal and inspire!
Sweat Out the Stress
Time to break a sweat and unleash your inner fitness diva! Whether it’s a dance class, yoga session, or kickboxing extravaganza, get that heart pumping and let those endorphins work their magic. Put on those dancing shoes and twirl your troubles away! Blast your favorite tunes and let your body move to the rhythm. Dancing is a fabulous way to release pent-up emotions and reconnect with your vibrant spirit. Or you can join a workout class and meet new friends! Say hello to a fabulous, fit new you!
Reflect on Your Relationship Needs
When it comes to dating, we often find ourselves instinctively attracted to certain individuals. However, taking the time to consider our own relationship needs can assist us in finding a compatible partner for the future. Reflect on your past relationships and think about needs were and weren’t getting met and how these are important to you in future relationships.
Write Your Story
Grab your favorite notebook and pen because we’re going to dive deep into those emotions. Write about your journey, your dreams, and the lessons you’ve learned. Journaling is a cathartic process that will help you release, heal, and grow. Not sure how to start? I’ve got you covered! Check out my post on 4 Simple Ways to Start Journaling.
Dare to Dream Big
Now that you’re free from the past, it’s time to focus on the fabulous future that awaits you! Set bold, audacious goals that ignite your passion and make your heart flutter. Whether it’s starting a new business, pursuing a creative endeavor, or traveling the world, dream big and go after it. Use this time to focus on you and your goals!
Find Inner Peace and Zen Vibes
Stillness is the key to finding your center. Explore the magical world of meditation and mindfulness. Take a few moments each day to sit in silence, focus on your breath, and let go of any lingering thoughts. Allow yourself to be present in the here and now, and watch the magic unfold.
Show Yourself Compassion
I know that urge to hurry up and get through your breakup, but you need to remind yourself that you’re going through a lot right now. You’re experiencing grief, you’re reassessing your identity, maybe your living situation has also changed. The point is, you’re going through a massive life transition right now and it’s okay that you don’t have it all together right now. Be gentle with yourself.
Shower Yourself with Self-Love Mantras
Words have power! Fill your mind and heart with empowering affirmations. Repeat phrases like “I am strong,” “I am worthy of love,” and “I am a dazzling force of nature.” Believe in yourself and let your inner sparkle shine brightly!
Create Space for New Beginnings
It’s time to bid farewell to the relics of the past, sweetie. Sort through the mementos and trinkets that remind you of your ex. Keep only those that hold positive memories, and let go of the rest. You can ask a friend to return your ex’s belongings or donate them. When it comes to keepsakes you want to keep, put them out of the way so you don’t see it every day and get reminded of your ex. By decluttering your space, you make room for new adventures and love.
Pamper Your Taste Buds
Indulge your senses in a delectable culinary journey. Treat yourself to fabulous dinners, try new recipes, and explore exotic cuisines. Food has a way of bringing joy and satisfaction to the soul, so try something new and open yourself to a whole new culinary experience.
Volunteer and Give Back
Nothing warms the heart more than acts of kindness. Find a cause that resonates with you and dedicate some of your time and energy to helping others. Maybe it’s volunteering at a local animal shelter or working at a food bank. Studies have shown that helping others can improve our moods! The world needs your fabulousness, and there’s no greater joy than making a positive impact.
Binge-Watch Series
Grab your popcorn and get ready for a binge-watching extravaganza! Dive into captivating TV series that transports you to a world of glamour, romance, and laughter. Immerse yourself in captivating storytelling and let the fabulous characters become your new besties.
Get Inspired by Powerful Role Models
Seek inspiration from icons who radiate confidence and resilience. Whether it’s a trailblazing artist, a fierce entrepreneur, or a social justice advocate, surround yourself with stories and images that remind you of your own strength and potential.
Embrace the Power of Forgiveness
It’s time to unleash the transformative power of forgiveness! Holding onto resentment and bitterness only weighs you down. When you forgive, you set yourself free.
Psychology tells us that forgiveness can lead to reduced anger, improved mental health, and increased overall well-being. By releasing the negative emotions tied to your past relationship, you create space for healing and personal growth. Forgiveness is not about condoning what happened, but about freeing yourself from the emotional shackles that hold you back.
So, take a deep breath, look within your heart, and choose to forgive your ex. Remember, forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, allowing you to move forward with grace and a lighter heart. Embrace this powerful act of self-love and watch as your spirit soars to new heights.
Reignite Your Passion for Life
Remember those hobbies and activities that used to make you come alive? It’s time to reignite that flame! Whether it’s painting, dancing, playing an instrument, or cooking up a storm, immerse yourself in activities that bring you pure joy. Take immediate action to get started on these activities: sign up for a class, hire a teacher, buy the materials you need! Let your passions light up your life and remind you of the vibrant, fabulous person you are.
Celebrate Your Growth and Embrace the Future
You’ve come such a long way on this journey of healing and self-discovery. Take a moment to celebrate your progress and honor the strength it took to overcome heartbreak. Embrace the future with open arms, knowing that your fabulousness knows no bounds.
Remember, healing takes time, but with each day, you grow stronger and more radiant. Hopefully, this list of ways to get over your ex will give you inspiration to embrace self-love, surround yourself with positive energy, and never forget the fabulousness that resides within you.
If you’re seeking personalized support and guidance on your healing journey, don’t hesitate to book a counselling appointment with me. Together, we’ll continue to uncover the brilliance that lies within you.
Stay fierce, stay fabulous, and keep shining like the star you are.
